My little head-banger

Missy continues to bang her head on the tile floors, kitchen cabinets, walls, etc. I have talked to our FDS, GAL and CM.  I also spoke to her mother and asked if she has ever done this before. I was told that she had "just started" before the state "took her away".  Mom is sure it has to do with being taken and that when  it happened in her custody was "just a fluke".  Either way, it's very concerning as I am afraid that she will hurt herself. It doesn't seem to phase her at all. Sometimes she even acts like it feels good.  Most time it's when she seems frustrated but at other times she seems to do it for no other reason that she WANTS to.

I got a referral from Missy's primary care doctor today to see a Neurologist.  I'm interested in seeing what he/she says about this.

Foster Speak.....or what does that MEAN?

I have had people ask me what different "foster words" mean.  Here is a list of common acronyms and words you will hear in my posts.  By no means are these universal....some are but lots are my own....

I read several other foster momma blogs and a lot are common.

In no certain order....because that's the way my brain functions:

CM......Case Manager, Care Manager, Case Management....all the same thing, it is the person, or persons who work for the state. They manager the case.....duh

GAL, Guardian Ad Litem....A person appointed to be the voice for the children.  Most are unpaid volunteers

CPI....Child Protection Investigator or Child Protection Investigation..This is the agency that ensures that children are not abused or neglected.  Typically (at least in our case) a CPI (investigator) brings a foster child to your home the first time.

Transport...short for transporter...the person to drives a child to and from visits or other functions..sometimes transport supervises visits

FP....foster parent

Group Home.....

FDS, Family Development Specialist...A person from your licensing agency who "has your back", your "go to person"....any problems at all with the children or your CM and they will help intervene.

Licensing Agency....they license you for foster care, they do your home study, provide training and continuing education. They support you through your fostering journey.

Independent Living Counselor..... ( I copied and pasted this from their website, since I have yet to deal with them--I will update when I have personal information)

Adolescents face a range of developmental issues, and as teens approach adulthood, living independently becomes a significant goal. While youth with intact families may struggle to achieve self-reliance, youth in out-of-home care face formidable obstacles. The counselor will provide resources and program to help them achieve independent  living.

FK...foster kid   or FB...foster baby

I'm sure as the time goes on, I will encounter more and I will update this page as I learn new things.  I'm new at this too, so we can learn together.

Holy Moley.. Just be nice People!..School Readiness

Deciding on sending a child off to strangers to watch is never an easy thing.  Sure I know almost all the staff at our local daycare. In fact several even go to our same church. I trust these people, as much as I'd trust anyone. And that, is the problem.  I have trust issues sometimes.  But I digress....

Determining it was in Missy's best interest to socialize with other cookie-munchers and not just hang out 24/7 with Meme, I made a trip to the School Readiness Office in Brandon.  I was told that it was "a different world" and to be prepared.  Wow... Now, I'm not uppity at all, but the side of life that was present in that office had me shaking my head.  I saw skin-tight clothing that looked painted on and more BC (my pastor husband euphemism for butt-crack) than I care to see in a life time. I heard momma's cussing at 2 year olds and overheard iphone conversations peppered with "f..." this and "f... NO!"

Not cool.....

Also I was warned to get there early....like 6:30 am.  So I did, thinking that I would be setting there all by myself until they opened till 7:30.  Au contraire.....

I find myself 13th in line behind people who have obviously been there before! They have lawn chairs, coolers of food (seriously) and the ever-present iPhones streaming cartoons... or something, to their little people.  Oh my goodness!

Seven-twenty-nine (and a half).  The blinds are raised and the countdown is on......30 seconds, 29, 28, 27.... Seriously they were watching the hands tick to the 7:30 mark.

We filed in, signed in and took a number. ... and sat and waited.
It was like they took pleasure in making you wait.  Not a nice person in the bunch, they were all short tempered and grouchy. Not the way I wanted to start my day, especially since I had been up since 5:00am!  

It's right here that I need to stop and ask God to help me with my patience.  Really....right here...
and this is what I found:

Ephesians 4:2-3
² Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. ³ Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace.

I stopped to pray for the employees here. They have lives outside of here and maybe they need extra prayer.  The work they do is underappreciated by the sound of all of the disgruntled patron assembled.  It was a loud work enviornment and everytime they called a name they had to do it over someones loud voice or screaming kids.  I wouldn't have wanted to work there.  
I ask the Lord for patience and he gives me all kinds of opportunities to hone that personality trait.  Maybe I shouldn't ask for it so much.

Garage Sale Fiasco OR Memorial Hospital

It's been a long day. It started out fine. Mom and dad had driven up from Fort Myers Thursday night to have a yard sale at our house.  The day woke sunny and with a cool breeze...perfect to set up the yard sale. The kiddos were enjoying the outdoors and playing in the leaves and running here and there. Right after a picnic lunch of ham sandwiches and "tato ships" Oogie crawled up on grammy's lap and snuggled close.  Mom called me over and said that she was concerned that Oogie was getting a cold....and it came up really quick.  Her eyes looked puffy and her nose was pouring.  She started coughing and sounded like a seal. Wheezing started soon after and then a fever..... I decided that I needed to get her to the doctor....right away.  I called our FDS* and let them know that I was headed to an after hours clinic.  After stopping at two different ones that wouldn't take her form of medicaid I decided to head to the hospital.
Three hours, an x-ray and breathing treatment later, we headed home with the diagnosis of an upper respiratory infection.  This is becoming a reoccurring problem that might need to be addressed with her primary care doctor.

COME ON People....

I know that there is a big controversy over vacinations and flu shots... but at the risk of adding to the fray.....

This is just irresponsible!  If you want to be a parent, be a parent. I am a bit frustrated right now.  I just took Baby M. to the doctor and this is what I found out!

Notice all the pink!  OVERDUE! What have you been doing? Obviously not caring for your child as a responsible mother. If you take the stand of being "for" vacinations, then do it! If you don't, on ethical, religious or other reasons, that's fine too. But the fact that you "started", but not followed through....well that just makes me plum crazy.

Ok, off the rant right now....stepping off the soapbox...

In other news, the babies are doing very well.  They are adjusting.  Baby M. is definately a "daddy's girl" and I'm content to snuggle the "little man".

Why does everything take so L.O.N.G.

I am still waiting for our Case Manager to change Baby M's primary care doctor so I can take her to the doctor and catch up on the shots that she is so far behind on. It seems like everytime I contact the CM she has another excuse. I understand that a lot of work goes into being a Case Manager but there is a "baby" connected to all of these files!! It's been over a month since we took in Baby M and STILL NO PRIMARY CARE DOCTOR....

Yet those who wait for the LORD Will gain new strength; They will mount up with wings like eagles, They will run and not get tired, They will walk and not become weary.

                                                                                                    Isaiah 40:31

 I try to be patient, I really do, but sometimes I think God called me to this life so He could TEACH me patience! Every day it's something else.  I get so aggrevated in my mind. Self-talk tells me that maybe I shouldn't do this...I'm not cut out for it. But then I look at these sweet innocent souls and realize if not me, who?  I'm not perfect but my heart is in the right place.  God can use this and I can find his strength in my weakness.

On another note, I had a great photo session with a family at the Beach.  (yes, I have another life - as a photographer)  If you want to see some of my work visit  New Hope Photography

Toothie Tales....Or Baby's first dentist appointment

Baby M went to her first dentist appointment today! Thanks to Dr. Mike at Mcilwain DentistryCheck them out! Great dentist, wonderful staff!!

Good news....no cavities!      Registered Friends